Eva is obsessed with two things currently.
1. Swiper the fox from Dora
2. Her future brother or sister.
Tonight before bed time we were saying prayers and thanking Jesus for the many things we have to be thankful for. When she runs out of things to say she will look at me and say "Whats next?" The first thing that popped into my head was how much she loves Dora and I said "what about Swiper fox from Dora and how much you love that show?" She paused for a minute, looked at me with her big, beautiful eyes and said "Mommy, did schwiper box (yes, she calls him schwiper box) swipe my brother/sister?"
I just had to laugh. How could you not? I told her no, I would never let that happen . I then reminded her that Jesus keeps us safe and that Swiper fox is only pretend on the T.V.
She then, just for good measure I suppose, said "SCHWIPER NO SCHWIPING!" followed quickly by an "OHHH man!"
If you are a mom to a toddler, you know the hilarity of this conversation. Man I love this chick.
Eva Grace, more recently called my baby beluga, seriously cracks me up. She seriously has such a huge and tender heart, and for only being 2 years old I am CONSTANTLY blown away by the things she says. It is almost daily now that she says "brothersisters Eva wanna hold you!" (Yes, we are graduating to "brothersisters" as apposed to "brot-ter-shis-ter", although that word (if you can call it that) still makes an appearance every once in awhile.) I don't think she totally gets what's going on, but let me tell you something this girl is READY to have a brother or sister.
I stated wondering a few weeks back if we might have been premature by telling her she was going to be a big-and/or-little sister (sheesh, I tell you adoption is complicated!) her sweet little heart simply cannot seem to understand why EVERY SINGLE DAY Mommy says no when she asks if I can go "get dem, bring dem home to da Eva’s house!" Since I can't take it back now, and she can't seem to get the brother sisters out of her head, I've started using this opportunity as a time to share some pre-k gospel with her. So far, so good I'd say.
About a week ago we came across a picture of a waiting boy from another agency who had a need to be adopted. He was severely malnourished, to the point where his hair was discolored. Our hearts broke for him greatly. As I was staring into his eyes Eva asked me "who's dat?" I explained to her that sometimes little boys and girls don't have mom's or dad's because a yucky thing called sin is in the world, and that part of loving Jesus means loving little boys like him. We prayed that he would find a home and a mommy to "give him kisses and sippy cups" and the next day, guess what ya'll? He found a home! She has told many people, even strangers who don't have any idea what she is talking about, that the little boy found a mommy to love him.
Proud mommy moment.
It might have been pre-mature to tell her about adoption BEFORE our referral, but honestly it's amazing to see her mull over everything in her sweet, kind, precious little heart. I told her a few days ago that having a brother OR a sister (yes, I try to differentiate the two) is going to mean sharing toys, perhaps even sharing a room. She thought about it for awhile and then offered to give up her Snow White doll, which is a newer toy she loves, so that they can have a toy too.
I die.
So many people ask me "how are you going to explain to her that her sister or brother didn't grow in your belly?" For awhile, I thought that might be a problem, after all how would she understand the motives we have at 2 years old? Will she feel hurt? Will she be confused? If we get an older child will it mess her up?
Perhaps for some kids, it might cause some problems, I don't know- but so far it hasn’t for Eva. Eva calls a spade a spade every time and that is one of the million reasons I adore her. She seems to understand, perhaps more than a lot of us, that some babies come from the belly, and some babies don't. Her "best friend" if you can have such a thing at 2, is about to become a big sister (yay!) through traditional means and Eva says, quite often, "Riley's little brother live in the belly button" (eh, you win some you lose some) "But MY brother/sister lives in
See? It's just that simple really.
Thank you Eva for bringing it back down to simple terms.
I truly believe that this adoption has been a blessing to everyone around us who has been willing to open up their heart and share this part of life with us. It has blessed TeJay, Eva and I more than I can even put into words, and I am so thankful to each and every one of you who has donated, prayed for, or followed along side us on our journey.
WE COULDN'T DO THIS WITHOUT YOU!!!
Until next time, MUCH LOVE!
-TeJay, Ashleigh, Eva and Baby H
Ps here is some bonus footage of my awesome daughter and soon to be big/little/both sister!
No comments:
Post a Comment